Imagine you’re born a tree rather than a human being. No one raises you or teaches you how to be a tree. An interplay of natural science and divine order facilitates your growth from seedling to sapling to one of nature’s most integral and glorious spectacles by nurturing you with sunshine, rain, and soil. No one tells you you’re a good tree or a bad tree, a more or less beautiful or significant tree than the others around you. You don’t even label yourself a tree. You just are. You’re a prominent part of nature, one tree among trillions, one speck of creation in an entire cosmos.
What if human beings were raised in the same way, nurtured without being labeled good, bad, beautiful, or flawed? You’re seen as an ideal and intrinsic part of a whole. Unique, yes, but no more or less important than anyone else. No one tells you what kind of human you are or “should” be. They simply provide you with the essential nutrients (in the form of love, attention, safety, and basic, unbiased guidance) to become the best human you can be, without anyone else’s expectations, projections, judgments, or rules.
You’d be as perfect and as brilliant as a tree. You’d experience optimal health (emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually), know how powerful you are, and trust yourself to make sound decisions and rely on your intuition.
Unless your parents were highly evolved or enlightened, more than likely your childhood looked quite different from that of a tree.
Parents typically try to mold children into what they believe is best for them rather than providing the basics: sun, fertile soil, and rain. Cared for similarly, most parents hurt their offspring unintentionally by passing along conditioned behaviors, wounds, and misguided perceptions regarding what’s true about themselves and the world. Contrary to our narcissistic notions, the children to whom we give birth do not belong to us. A parent’s purpose is to keep his or her children safe, to ensure their basic needs are met physically and emotionally, and to surrender them to the journeys they’re here to travel in their lives.
But no parent is perfect. Rather, they likely initiate us into what Joseph Campbell refers to as Monomyth, or “The Hero’s Journey.” We internalize and inherit our ancestors’ limiting beliefs, psychospiritual wounds, and struggles. On the other side, Campbell says, “the individual, through prolonged psychological disciplines, gives up completely all attachment to his personal limitations, idiosyncrasies, hopes and fears, no longer resists the self-annihilation that is prerequisite to rebirth in the realization of truth, and so becomes ripe, at last, for the great at-one moment. His personal ambitions being totally dissolved, he no longer tries to live but willingly relaxes to whatever may come to pass in him; he becomes, that is to say, an anonymity.”
As a result, Campbell asserts, the hero realizes his true identity, the “I AM.” We can truly thank our imperfect parents.
The title of this blog, Sat Nam, comes from the Sanskrit meaning Truth Is My Name, or I Am Truth. My mission as a psychotherapist, psychospiritual coach, energy healer, and as writer of this blog is to help you “Discover Your True Self.” My passion, my life’s purpose, is to support you in realizing and embodying your true identity, your value, your perfection in the order of things, your soul’s purpose, and your role as a drop in the vast ocean of Consciousness.
I will attempt to offer insight, invite you to ask yourself questions, provide tools to navigate the underworld and your growth, validate your experiences, witness your struggles, shine a light in the darkness, celebrate your successes, and share wonder at the human spirit and the miracle of being alive.